So our Spring Social here at college has been declared to be a Sadie Hawkins dance. For those of you unfamiliar with the tradition of Sadie Hawkins dances, click here for the Wikipedia article. Essentially, when the tradition is enacted, the girls are supposed to ask the guys to the dance, counter to the normal tradition of guys asking girls.

Unfortunately, my situation is rather tricky. There's a girl I'd been hoping to ask to the dance for some time, but now that it's Sadie Hawkins style, I'm not sure what to do.

The question is this: in your opinion, is it acceptable for a guy to ask a girl to a Sadie Hawkins dance?

Is this girl someone you know, someone you only share a bit of small talk with now and again, someone who you eyeball from the darkest corner of the room?

Second category, generally. We were in a musical together, though we don't know each other really well...

I suppose you can't go wrong by talking ABOUT the dance with her...

Well, if you don't feel it's out of bounds or she'd have an adverse reaction to it, I don't see how it'd hurt to casually ask. I assume she's a good person from what you've gathered so the worst that could happen is you get politely turned down. Or you could go with what Stane said, and just tiptoe into the topic. If you're getting a good vibe and there aren't any raised flags then you could ask, or make the suggestion that you go together without actually asking the question.

Either way, as it's someone you don't know too well, bringing it up at all is most likely going to be a dead giveaway that you're interested in going with her to this dance, unless of course she's really oblivious to that sort of thing or you're one sly old son of a gun. In which case- *thumbsup*

Tip-toeing around subjects has never worked out from personal experience... Personally, if you're in the second category, bring up the dance, see if she has anyone in mind, if not then just make the offer. If she says she's thinking of asking someone, that's usually a red light to backpedal out of there.

But of course, I'm not a leading expert on these things, so what do I know =)

EDIT: Basically, just everything Sydofh has said. Yay for not reading <.<

Also, as for the Sadie thingy, those are usually just traditions. They're not meant to always be followed anyway.

I'm in general agreement with what everyone says here. It's good advice.

I'd also add that a lot of girls are really uncomfortable with the whole Sadie Hawkins situation anyways, so asking is almost like a bailout.

Depends on the girl.
Is she something of a feminist and really excited about it being a Sadie Hawkins style? Thennn you're probably out of luck. Otherwise, just bring it up honestly. "I was hoping to ask you to the dance, but now it's girls-ask-guys. Would you still be interested in going with me?" - something like that.

I triply agree with everyone else. Bring up the subject of the dance with her just from idle conversation and see what she says about it. If the subject of who she's going with comes up and she says she isn't going with anyone, be coy about it and say something like, "Yea, no girl as asked me either, I guess they're all just too shy of my awesomeness." =P

That'll usually help brake the proverbial ice a little bit and make it a bit easier for you just to ask her yourself. Good luck! =D

Since everyone else is giving good advise. I'll give some bad advise.

First of all. Find out what her favorite color is and favorite flowers are.

Then. Proceed to DESTROY ALL THAT THOSE REPRESENT! EXTERMINATE! EXTERMINATE!

EDIT: And if that doesn't work woo her with a thriller dance:



Zombies and all. Nothing says i love you like corpse desecration.

EDIT2: No wait. Do this EXACTLY AS SHOWN! Even saying it EXACTLY like the video does: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbvP7dT3Dx0

EDIT3: DO NONE OF THESE THINGS JUST ASK HER IF YOU WANT TO ROCK! AND IF SHE DESIRES IT NOT... WELL..... THEN.... ONLY ONE THING REMAINS....

Bad /b/-tard, bad! =P